Speak I Want To See You !

It takes three years to human kind  to learn to speak ... but it takes whole our life in learning what to speak

The way of our speaking, the way how do we talk to others that  reflects our personality, and according this we get respect or disrespect . People respect us if we talk smilingly, wisely or in a true and proper language. But if we talk to people, by falsehood, twisting and turning the  talks in bitter language, then we are absolutely going to be  humiliated, our personality could be counted in notorious figure.

We see Crow and cuckoo are the same in appearance, but unless the two speak, it is difficult to know them separately. Similarly unless someone does not talk, his goodness or evil does not appear. So if you have to speak then speak sweet like cuckoo, do not bitter like crows.
keep your words sweeter 
Here are two contexts about the way of talking . Please read them carefully and understand
Context - 1

"A person went to an astrologer to know about his future. Astrologer saw his horoscope and said,"All your relatives and your family will die soon and you will see the death of your family and You will be alone in this world"that person got very upset, and became very angry with the astrologer. He insulted the astrologer and went away.

Now that person went to another astrologer The other astrologer saw his horoscope and said - "Your age is very long. You will live long enough. You will also see the happiness of your grandchildren.You will see their marriage also."The person was very happy to hear this. He gave the astrologer enough fee and gladly returned from there.
There was a woman in a village. she used to sell honey. Besides the honey her voice was also as sweet as honey. Her way of speaking, the way she talks was so good .So there was always a crowd of buyers at her shop. A man with narrow minded noticed that a woman is earning so much profit by selling honey, he also started selling honey near her shop.
But the nature of that person was extremely intractable and hard. He used to talk to customers with bitter and shouting accent. He used to start to quarrel over something with customers. One day a customer asked to him is your honey is pure ?On this matter, the he burst out on the customer and said, "The person who himself is fake, he tells the goods of another to be fake and starts to quarrel with the customer, The client felt very bad and he returned from there without buying honey.

The same customer then approached the woman and asked the same question. The woman smiled and said when she herself is real, why would she sell fake honey? The customer was happy with the response of the woman and he took the honey.

In the first context, if you see, the thing was the same, just the way of talking of the two astrologers were different. One said the same thing in such a way that the person got angry, while the other said the same thing in a way that the person returned very happy.

In the second context you can see that two people are doing the same kind of work, but the manner in which they speak is different from each other, so people dislike the person who speaks bitterly and the sweet and smiling language is liked by all .

Many of these types of events we found in our home, with our relatives, and around us daily.Sometimes we make others laughing stuck without thinking, and we say such things to someone that hurts or create grieves. Like we make joke of our friends repeatedly  anywhere or in front of anyone.by saying "You are a big idiot, you are crazy, or we tease someone when they makes a mistake or if their work fails, we make  fun of their failure repeatedly without thinking .

In the same way, sometimes we give unnecessary scolding to our children,we often behave very badly with them, or if the children got fail in some exam, or if any work has been done by them , then we scold them very badly,or taunt them repeatedly or try to humiliate them by comparing them with another child, or we stop talking to them. But we don’t think that the effect of this can be so harmful, children can start hating us it can also effect their studies.

Similarly, while talking to our elders in the house, sometimes we talk in a loud or aggressive language that makes them feel very sad. A husband or wife repeatedly repeats one another's old mistakes, taunts or says something that seems very bad.

So friends there is only way to live in people's heart and mind is to keep care when you speak .. our language is the most strongest way to reach our destiny .  

Believe In Yourself !

There was a spider. It thought of making a great web  to live in comfortably ,and thought that there will be caught  many insects, flies and I will get them trapped in this, and I will make them my diet and I will be having fun. It got one corner of the room and started to knit it there. After some time web got ready mostly half  . Seeing this, the spider was very happy. suddenly it's eyes fell on a cat who was laughing at the sight of the web.

The spider got angry and said to the cat, "Why are you laughing?"
the cat asked ,"why I do not do so?"

Don't you see there are no flies here. This place is absolutely clean, who will come here in your nets?"the cat asked to spider.

and spider thought the cat is saying right . She thanked the cat for the good advice and left the web incomplete and started looking for another place. She again looked around and found a window and then began to knit the web for the second time . She was continued in weaving  the net,a bird came there and started making fun of the spider "Hey spider, you are so stupid."
"Why?", Spider asked.

The bird began to explain to her "Hey, here comes a strong wind from the window. Here you will fly with your webs. "
The spider  got worried with this , again she left the web incomplete and fly away from there . . Now she was thinking where it should be made and the time had passed a lot, and now he started feeling hungry. then she found a place near the opened door of a cupboard and she began to knit her web there.As she woven the web a little she saw a cockroach which was watching the web with a surprising sight.
Spider asked - 'Why are you looking like this?'cockroach said, "Hey, where are you weaving the web? It is a useless cupboard . Today It is lying here, it will be sold after a few days and all your efforts will be useless.

Hearing this, one more time the spider went away from there .
Now due to the repeated attempts, she became very tired and she did not have the strength to knit the web again . she was disturbed because of hunger.
and eventually  she was regretting that it was good to have weaving it beforehand. But now she can not do anything in this tired full situation.

When the spider thought that now nothing can happen, she was passing by, she saw a ant on the way and  spider was urging to help.
Ant said  "I have been looking at you for a long time, you start your work and leave it incomplete on other's advice . but always remember  those who do this who believe in others more then himself, he has to suffer with this condition."  ant said this and went out and left the spider regretting.

Friends! many times in our lives, something like this happens. We start work with a great deal of enthusiasm . In the beginning we feel very excited for that work, but due to the people's comments the enthusiasm is decreasing and we leave it in the middle of our work .
And when we find that we were very close to our success then there is nothing left except to regret later.